Thursday, March 29, 2012

A Vegetarian Wedding - Or Not?

Photo credit (and menu ideas!)

When I told my parents that Nathan and I were getting married, one of the first questions my father asked did not surprise me in the least.

"Are you going to serve meat at the wedding?" You could practically hear the panic in his voice.

My family is big into eating meat, mostly because my father insists on having it at every meal. The last time I was home, he made dinner. Sausage and peppers, with a side of chicken wings. Once, while visiting, I made a delicious pasta and vegetable recipe for the whole family. He grilled a burger as his side dish. Needless to say, I knew the wedding menu issue would be tricky, especially since Nathan and I are leaning toward a vegetarian wedding.

I've read enough blog posts and forums and magazine articles to know that what you serve at your wedding can cause a lot of opinions, and I understand why. Food is so intertwined with our culture, our traditions, our emotions. It's a way to forge connections to the past and demonstrate our love. I'm  definitely an "I love you, therefore I cook for you" kind of person, and even though I don't plan to self-cater our wedding, I want whatever food we serve to accomplish that same feeling.

Ideally, Nathan and I agree that a vegetarian wedding would be best. We are vegetarians for ethical and environmental reasons, and it doesn't make sense to slaughter a bunch of animals for a day which is supposed to celebrate love and commitment. On the other hand, I want to be a good hostess and make my guests comfortable, and for some people (*cough*Dad*cough*) comfort means a piece of steak.

One of the arguments I keep hearing is that when I go to an event, I am almost always offered a vegetarian meal, therefore I should extend the same thoughtfulness to my meat eating friends and family. But there is an important difference there, and it is that I don't eat meat, ever. Those friends and family who do? They also eat vegetables. So I'm not forcing them to eat something they don't agree with - I'm just leaving one of the many things they do eat off the table, while offering other things in it's place.

At the end of the day, each of our guests will have eaten a meal that is delicious, thoughtfully planned, and paid for by the bride and groom. No one will be forced to eat tofu. There will undoubtedly be some kind of vegetarian lasagna (with real cheese! See? I am capable of compromise!) which is not generally considered "weird" or "gross" by the average American. Because of these things, I don't think asking my loved ones to eat one meatless meal should be a big deal. And yet, for some people, it is.

Honestly, I think most of our friends would be surprised if we did choose to serve meat at our wedding. It's really the families (parents in particular) that I am worried about upsetting.  And that worry is enough to make me consider a more diverse menu, simply because no one wants to disappoint their parents, even if they are 30 years old and about to get married.

What say you, oh wise and fair Readers? Are you a vegetarian? If so, and if you're married, what did you serve at your wedding? If you are not a vegetarian, would a meat-free wedding make you feel excluded, denied, or disappointed? I want to stay true to my values, but I also don't want my dad smuggling a Happy Meal into the reception. It is, like most things, a delicate balance.

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  1. I"m a new reader : hello ! I'm a flexitarian, so is my boyfriend, we eat meat only couple times a year... It is YOUR wedding, YOUR day, everybody will be there for YOU. Fallow your values, parents are suppose to support their child... Bottom line, our arguments toward a vegeterian wedding are stronger than for a flexi-wedding ! (sorry for my english, i'm french...)

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    1. Ha! Thanks for reading, and thanks for your support! :)

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  2. I say serve what you want. I would have a vegetarian wedding too and you are right; THEY can eat anything. And I thinking serving a common dish is a great compromise.

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  3. My theory, and I guess it could go both ways, is it is 1 meal. 1 meal out of 3 meals they eat a day, 7 days a week. I think they can handle eating a vegetarian meal for that one night.

    I will probably end up having a vegan wedding (if and when I get married) and I hope it will actually save some costs! Luckily my parents and most of their friends (who would be invited) have recently started trying to eat plant free so I think they would all enjoy it.

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    1. This is my theory as well. Originally I wanted a vegan wedding, but I figured having one cheesy dish would be enough of a compromise. Now I just have to make my father see that!

      A lot of my friends are vegetarian/vegan/enjoy vegetables, so I'm really only worried about the older crowd. On the bright side, they already think we're weird. Maybe they won't be as surprised by the menu as I think. :)

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  4. Serve what you want. Your wedding, your money, and it's most definitely the bride and groom's day.

    As long as there is plenty of food and alcohol people will be content. And having a meatless option of a cheesy yummy lasagna is super comfort food and should satisfy most people. Those who aren't satisfied (*cough*DAD*cough*) well he will forgive you, because he's your dad. :) Tell him to eat a steak or burger before he arrives for the event.

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    1. Lasagna will go a long way towards compromise. On Thanksgiving, my family as lasagna as an appetizer. Oh, Italians!

      And there will be plenty of booze, which is the main thing people care about anyway. :)

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  5. I'm a vegetarian. If whoever I end up marrying isn't, then I'll serve meat at the wedding. If he is, I probably won't. My thinking is, it's your day, and the thought of your guests not having meat at ONE MEAL is less upsetting for them than the thought of shoveling so much money into the meat industry is for you. Honestly, this day is about you, and while I'm clearly biased (being a veggie myself), I really think it's unfair for any of your guests to be upset about what you serve at your wedding. Whatever you decide, I would just try to make sure it's a decision that, at the end of the day, you feel great about.

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    1. A lot of people seem to agree that since we're both vegetarian, there's no real need to serve meat. I like this line of reasoning!

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  6. Hi there! I think the conundrum for you guys is because you are BOTH vegetarian. I have been veggie for almost 13 years. My husband eats meat. Last summer we had a big party for our friends and family to celebrate our marriage (we had a destination wedding earlier in the year with immediate family only).

    My point of view was that I was the only vegetarian attending the event, so I should default to serving meat.I was the one negotiating the menu, so I made sure there were plenty of veggie options for me (plus lots of dessert!) I also had a few relatives on both sides who I knew would make a big deal of a vegetarian meal, and I knew it would come up as a topic for years, so for the sake of marital bliss, meat was the way to go.

    So although it seems counterintuitive to reward unsupportive behavior, if you think someone important to you will be making snide comments about the menu or will always bring up your "weird vegetarian wedding" (and it would bother you--maybe you have thicker skin that I do!) then maybe you reconsider. If you can trust your relatives/friends to be pleasant and suck it up, stick with your veggie principles.

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    1. You're so right - if Nathan ate meat, this would be a totally different issue. And I am already used to being teased by my family about my dietary choices - having them bring up my "weird vegetarian wedding" wouldn't really bother me, or be any different from every visit home. I've learned to live with it, and even laugh at it. :)

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    2. I'm so glad you have such a good attitude about the teasing. I have a relative who genuinely and vehemently believes that being vegetarian is unhealthy, and will ultimately lead to malnutrition and an early demise. He has said to my face that he is amazed I am still alive!! And he has already told my husband that he needs to force me to eat meat when we are ready to start a family. Serving meat was an easy tradeoff for an afternoon without judgement of my choices. :)

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  7. I recently went to a wedding with the most amazing vegetarian buffet! I can't imagine anyone complained - it was some of the best food I've ever eaten (used to be vegetarian, but eat all sorts now). It did help that the wedding was at this organic farm though and had it's own chef... I personally think you should serve what YOU want to eat at your wedding. Granted, tofu might be a bit out there, but who would moan about lasagna?!~ Sara

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    1. I would love to have a wedding at an organic farm! And yes, I agree that no one will be able to complain about lasagna. (Though I am sure, no matter what we serve, someone will find something to complain about!)

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    2. If they find something to complain about, who needs them anyway? The point is to celebrate and have a good time. If someone is looking for fault, they need therapy, not a steak dinner. <3

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    3. Well, I will keep my parents around, even if they complain about my weird lifestyle. But someone on this thread said no one will love everything we choose to do, and we shouldn't expect them to - that's why people get their own weddings. (Well, unless they are gay, but that's a whole other issue.)

      But I agree - therapy > steak!

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  8. Sigh. The wedding food. Well, John eats meat, so we weren't in the same boat as the two of you. I wanted a lot of options so I thought a big buffet-style thing would be cool. But my dad was the padrino for food and he decided that buffets were tacky. So we had a sit-down dinner with chicken cordon-bleu, fettucini alfredo, and vegetables. My dinner that night was a side of over-steamed veggies. So I say do what YOU want, especially if you're the one paying for it. When you start letting other people pitch in is when you start to lose control. Exercise control whenever you can!

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    1. Also, two weeks after our wedding, we went to another wedding with an awesome buffet. Included were cooks making pasta according to your preferences. Nothing tacky about it at all. It was awesome!

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    2. We are 100% doing a buffet! I don't think they're tacky and, more importantly, they're much cheaper! You don't have to pay for all those servers!

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    3. A buffet is a nod to your improvised Southern roots, don't you know? Apparently, buffet weddings are the thing in the South, while Northerners are usually not as keen. We had a gorgeous buffet and though we did offer sliced prime rib and fish at the end of the line, the rest was actually all vegetarian (and neither of us are veg) and people went overboard with compliments on the food. Veggie buffet FTW!

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    4. I love buffets! I think Northerners are starting to come around, too. I wish I had met you a month earlier, Mary, so I could have come to your wonderful wedding!

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  9. I think your cheesy lasagna offering is a perfect compromise. And you can always tell your father, "Dad, I am doing this FOR YOU! I don't even eat cheese!" The fact that Nathan is also vegetarian is huge. I've always felt that if my groom were vegetarian, I would not serve meat at all. I don't really want to serve meat as a general rule of thumb, but I think my groom's preferences would provide a tipping point either for or against meat.

    In my family, there is an additional complication, which is that some people are gluten-free or even grain-free. My sister-in-law waxes and wanes with a paleo-inspired diet, and I understand her reasons for it. So I would absolutely think about her and try to make sure there was enough delicious food she could eat. And that might include meat. Obviously she and I have very different diets, but I love her and I'd want her to be happy at my wedding.

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    1. The cheese-offerings will be my back up, in case anyone complains. "You're lucky it's not a vegan wedding!" will be my battle cry. :)

      And yes, Nathan being a vegetarian as well does make the issue a lot cleaner. As for other people with dietary restrictions, I will definitely try to have a gluten free option - since we're planning on a buffet, this should be too hard. I would feel worse about serving food someone couldn't have, than serving something they don't want to try because it's "weird."

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    2. That should have said: "this shouldn't be too hard." Small typo, big difference!

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  10. I think the most important thing here is that this day belongs to you and Nathan. I also think it's a good rule of life not to bend your ethics and desires just to please others (or to avoid any discomfort caused by their negative opinions). Every person is responsible for his/her own happiness. That's why I think you guys should serve food you feel good about. Anyone who has anything negative to say about that will have negative things to say about anything. Let them host their own damn wedding.

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    1. Yeah! I like your attitude, lady! Host your own damn wedding!

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    2. Well said! Agreed.

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  11. You're wedding. You're money. You're food. If your dad gets a happy meal, take a picture and put it in the wedding album. It will be a funny memory.

    Also, how many weddings have you been to where you thought everything was perfect and exactly the way you would have done it? Probably NONE! That's because those weren't your weddings. This one IS yours so do it how you want. I'm not catholic, but I've participated in really long catholic ceremonies. I like to eat food, but I've been to weddings where no food was served except cake and punch. I'm about to be a parent, and I've been invited to a wedding that won't be kid friendly. Did I/Will I still go to those weddings and have an awesome time? YES! Because they are my friends and I went/will go to their weddings to celebrate them, not myself.

    Also, I would like to mention that my wedding ceremony and reception ware both entirely fuchsia. Do I think everyone I invited to my wedding liked fuchsia so much that they wanted to spend hours in a room where the lights were tinted fuchsia? Nope. But I sure did enjoy it.

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    1. I like the idea of taking a photo of any meat my father sneaks in. I'm sure it will be something...

      I bet your fuchsia wedding was perfect for you. And you're right - THAT is what matters. :)

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  12. I'm currently not a vegetarian (have been in the past), but I would have no trouble enjoying a vegetarian wedding. In fact, I've been to one! And it was lovely!

    I made a lot of compromises at my wedding to make my family happy. A lot. So many that I was not happy on my wedding day. I mean, I was happy to be getting married, but I did not enjoy the event. Do what's going to make your day special. Your parents already got their wedding.

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    1. I'm willing to make some compromises, but you're right - I don't want our wedding to be one big compromise. Thanks for the advice!

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  13. I agree with all, especially Vicki. Because not eating meat is an ethical issue for you, then you would have to actively do something that you think is unethical just because someone wants you to? I don't think I'd be comfortable with that. I do agree that you should have options besides "weird" vegetarian stuff (my parents get skeeved by things like tofu and seaweed), but things like pastas, vegetables, soups, salads, breads, tacos, enchiladas, quinoa, rice, fruit, wraps, (the list goes on!) are more "normal" AND delicious. We weren't vegetarians yet when we got married, but I would not serve meat now because I'm a veg for (mostly) ethical reasons. I wouldn't want to spend any part of my wedding looking over guiltily at the slab of steak or roasted chicken. Sooo... I vote no meat, but I won't be offended if you have it there. :)

    Ultimately, it's your day, and the people are there to celebrate YOU TWO. If I go to a wedding with NO vegetarian options, I deal, because it is not MY wedding. And, as you said, the difference between you and them is that you do not eat meat, whereas they DO eat vegetables/non-meat food. And, you guys are paying for it. And, I think the fact that you are willing to serve cheese is a huge compromise. I would look at this as a lovely opportunity to showcase just how incredible plant-based food can be. :)

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    1. Good point. People are afraid of the unfamiliar. I should view this as an opportunity to introduce them to delicious side of vegetarian food. :)

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  14. My hubby and I had a vegan (and mostly DIY) wedding when we got married seven years ago. Yes, a few guests nervously asked what kind of food would be served. My response: "Great food!" We put a lot of thought into creating a meal that was tasty, healthy, and in alignment with our ethics.

    My husband and I took the view that it was our wedding, we were paying, and while we love our families and friends and wanted them to enjoy all aspects of our wedding, they could survive one meal without animal products. It's just ONE meal, and in the end, isn't likely to be the most memorable part of the day for anyone.

    Tell your Dad you love him, but you want to have a wedding that reflects you and Nathan and your values. After all, successful marriages are often built on shared values, and what better way to start yours than with a wedding that celebrates this?

    Good luck! Take a deep breath, remember that you can't please everyone, and believe that no matter what happens this will be a very special day for you and Nathan! Congrats!

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    1. Lindsay, thanks for such experienced advice! This is a great comment, and I appreciate you sharing your story. :)

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  15. If you will be having a vegetarian meal on your big day, it does not necessarily mean that you are lecturing ever guest on how to become a vegetarian . No. That's not it.

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  16. Wow, I never dreamed you might serve meat at your wedding. I think it is so sweet of you to thoughtfully want to accommodate your dad, who frankly, does not seem very thoughtful about your values at all. I love many foods that are non-meat and even if you didn't include cheese, which I love so dearly, I would certainly understand why and not think "Oh my gosh--this is all about ME! She hates my cheese-eating guts, even though she invited me to share this important commitment celebration." What I might think is: she is serving food she and Nathan feel good about and love and want others to share. I can go to McDonald's anytime (though why would I want to), but this is a very special occasion! So serve the food that you love and makes you feel good and trust that others who love you will know it's not about punishing or denying them, but celebrating YOUR joy.

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    1. P.S. I am getting hungry thinking about all the delicious food you will serve as I read and re-read these comments. I wish there was a like button so I didn't have to comment and then type in the secret code for each one. Facebook has totally ruined me.

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    2. Hee hee! I feel the same way. So many thoughtful responses to this post, and it's been a pleasure reading them. Chrissy has a great community here :-)

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    3. This post has gotten way more comments than usual. Which just goes to show how important food is to people (myself included!).

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  17. Like many of the comments, I would also like to encourage you to make it your wedding, a wedding that reflects you. It is one meal. They'll live. And I'm sure it will be delicious. However, just be honest with people about your menu so they know what to expect (and maybe prepare for). For instance, I once went to a wedding in a very small town in southern Georgia where instead of a meal, they served a buffet of appetizers. I didn't begrudge them at all for trying to find ways to save money as the couple didn't have much. I was happy they wanted to include me in their wedding. However, they didn't tell anyone that is what they were serving. There was plenty of time between the wedding and the reception to fill up on something, but we didn't know that there were only going to be light appetizers. We were starving, but not so much so that we would have ever left our friend's wedding early. And because it was a small town, there was only one dinning option open late at night, Denny's. And at that hour it was full of people and cops patrolling the crowd.

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    1. Letting people know that we'll be hosting a vegetarian reception is a great idea. I think I'll put it right on the invite!

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  18. It's your wedding and your money. I'm sure your meat-loving family can go back to their hotels after the wedding and order a steak if they like. My husband is vegan and I'm vegetarian. We had a vegan reception. Nobody blinked an eye - they were good sports about trying the food. Also, we served alcohol, which seems to be a lot more important than meat. ;)
    Keep us posted on your menu!

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    1. Oh, there will definitely be plenty of booze! If all else fails, our guests can just fill up on beer. ;)

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  19. I agree with the majority here, and probably can't add too much other than what's already been said. I did want to comment on the suggestion that you should have a meat option simply because we always have a veggie option for you guys. What? This is silly nonsense. I'm a big meat eater, but even I understand that being vegetarian isn't so much about not liking meat as it is an ethical choice not to eat it. I'm mean, maybe there is someone out there who believes stabbing a fork into a piece of eggplant is somehow inhumane, but I think most of us meat eaters are adverse to vegetable dishes because we've simply been too lazy and unwilling to broaden our palettes by trying new dishes. Plus, given the many vegan recipes you share on here that sound absolutely scrumptious (vegan cupcakes anyone?) I say your wedding would be a wonderful time for the rest of the meat eating world to experience vegan cuisine done well and right by the amazing Chrissy Hennessey. Just my 2cents.

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    1. Thanks for the vote of confidence, friend! I appreciate your faith in me and my culinary choices. :)

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  20. Could you have the caterer make up a special plate with meat just for your dad (the way they make up a vegetarian plate when you have a vegetarian guest at a wedding where the menu is meat-based)? I agree that it is your wedding and you should do what you want and that most people will be fine (or happy even) with vegetarian food. I think most people, meat eaters or not, now realize that vegetarian food isn't just a lump of tofu on your plate and can be quite delicious. Neither my husband nor I are vegetarian but we unintentionally eat meatless dishes more than half of the time because it's just good food. However, I think a special plate for your dad (if possible) could be a nice gesture. He is your dad after all and I would think that he'd be really moved by the gesture, especially since he knows how you feel about meat. If anyone else has an issue they can just suck it up...they're not the father of the bride.

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  21. I'm a vegan so I'm heavily biased here...I don't think you should kill animals on your wedding day. I'm a vegan for moral and ethical reasons, and I suspect that, if I made that decision, I'd regret it forever.

    Your dad knows that you're a veg*n. If he can't accept that, even for one meal, on your wedding day, that's on him. If he wants to sneak out to McDonalds, that's his choice. You're serving food he can eat, and compromising by including a dish with cheese. That seems more than fair.

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  22. Hi Chrissy,
    I'm late on the boat with this one, but thought I'd add my two cents anyway ;).
    My husband and I just got married last June and we're both vegetarian. We also LOVE indian to top it off. We considered serving vegetarian Indian food at our wedding, but were flooded with doubts about peoples' reactions. Finally, we decided to go ahead and serve a variety of Indian dishes, all vegetarian, and none that were too spicy, and avoided telling those who we expected criticism from. It was a huge hit! Not only did people get to experience something that was enjoyed by us, but they were introduced to an entirely new genre of food.

    Remember, this is ONE meal for those in attendance. They won't be stuck eating it for a week, and most likely, they won't even remember it when they think back at the event. If any guest is like me, they will probably stop by to grab some food on their way home.
    Another reminder I told myself was this:
    The guests who are there to support and witness your wedding vows won't worry about what comes on the menu. Most people are thankful when they get to go to a party with music, food, dancing, and dessert for free... why is this any different?

    Whatever food you offer, I'm sure that many people won't even notice if it doesn't have meat (cheese lasagna, pasta, etc).

    I hope this gives you some encouragement. Remember it's your day- your vows, your celebration. You are doing a tremendously kind deed by serving your guests dinner-- I encourage you to let it be a reflection of you and Nathan (just like everything else in your wedding). :D
    -Ariel

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  23. Well I know it's late in the discussion, but I am not vegetarian, and I still think you should serve a vegetarian menu. It's about you, its your day, its one meal. Just tell him its a way to counter act the unhealthiness of all that booze with extra healthy veggies? Good luck either way:)

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  24. Hello - I just stumbled upon this thread in search of what to do about wedding reception food (although now I am eager to check out the rest of your blog!) I am getting married next summer but I am already nervous about the food for the wedding. My fiance and I are both vegetarian for ethical reasons, but no one else in our families are vegetarian and neither are most of our friends. I am wondering if you had made a decision and whether you could offer me any advice, having gone through this process? My wedding is actually being held at a resort that we have rented for the whole weekend, which means that our close friends and family will be with us all weekend and we would like to have the entire weekend be vegetarian. I notice a lot of arguments for having a vegetarian reception note that it's one meal where people have to suffer without their meat, but this would be something like 6 meals? I still think it's perfectly fine, but others seem to feel differently, which makes me wonder if I'm being unreasonable. Our parents are splitting the cost of the wedding (though we said we could pay for it), which is another reason I question my decision. I am not sure if you have gotten married yet or not, but if you have any advice I would love to hear it! :)

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    1. I'm actually still working on the decision. My parents are paying for the catering (very generous of them!) so now I'm torn about forcing them to buy AND eat something they don't want. I might include one fish dish - still trying to decide.

      As for your situation, I think a weekend of meals is definitely a bigger hurdle to jump. I would find out if anyone is vehemently opposed to forgoing meat for a few days. If they think it would be a neat experiment, then go for it. If they start to bitch and complain, you might want to reconsider, if only for your own sanity. Good luck!

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  25. My fiance and I are both vegetarians, too, and we're definitely having an all-vegetarian menu. Some in my family may not love that, but it's important to us. And, really, I think even meat-eaters shouldn't have a problem making it through one vegetarian meal!

    One issue I'm having is finding wedding sites with good vegetarian options. I'm just at the beginning of my wedding planning, though, so I hope to find something good soon.

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    1. We ended up buckling under the pressure and will serve one fish dish at dinner. Everything else will be vegetarian, and the cake will be vegan. The fact that my parents are paying for the catering had a lot to do with that decision.

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  26. I was searching for wegtarian wedding menus for my wedding and I finally ended up on your blog. I really liked your article as I and my finacé are strugling with the same problem. In my country it is almost impossible to organize a vegtarian wedding, I can't even find veg. wedding menus in Hungarian.
    We have the same problem with my mum (who was vegtarian for a whlie and not a big meat-earet) but even for he a wedding without meat means that we do not respect our guests. She said that nobody will like it and they will live earlier from the wedding. We definetly won't make and compromise as we will pay for the whole wedding. Do you have any complete menu ideas? Maybe we could exchange here?
    Dora

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    1. Hi Dora! We actually ended up compromising and serving one fish dish at our wedding. My parents were paying for the catering and so we felt obligated to do something for them. I posted the menu we ended up serving in my reception recap: http://christinehennessey.blogspot.com/2013/01/wedding-cocktail-hour-and-reception.html

      Hope that's helpful! Let me know if you have any questions or want to chat more about vegetarian weddings. :)

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  27. Can I ask what you did or are serving at your wedding? I am having a different issue in that my venue - which has fabulous food and great vegetarian appetizers - has a not so exciting vegetarian main course. I am a vegetarian, used to be vegan, and I cook yummy, flavorful food at home so I would expect the BEST vegetarian food on my wedding day :)
    My venue is open to suggestions from me. I was served saffron rice with balsamic grilled veggies. The veggies were great, but even if the rice had been good, it's not a substantial meal...

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    1. Congratulations on your wedding and marriage!

      We ended up compromising a bit, and served a fish dish in addition to an extensive vegetarian menu. We had a buffet, which I prefer, because it allows people a bigger variety of food and they can pick and choose what they want. We served the following:

      Seitan piccata (vegan)
      Cheese lasagna (vegetarian)
      Quinoa and roasted veggies (vegan, gluten free)
      Flounder with lemon caper sauce (meat, but local to NC, which I appreicated)
      Salad with raspberry vinagratte (vegan)
      Roasted potatoes (vegan and gluten free)
      Broccoli (cheese on the side, otherwise vegan and gluten free)
      Dinner rolls (vegetarian)

      I think that was everything. While my grandparents and parents still thought the food was "weird," there was less drama about the menu once we were actually at the wedding than I anticipated. Most people were just really happy for us and excited about the event, that the food didn't matter as much. (Plus it was delicious!)

      I hope that's helpful! Let me know if you have any other questions. I'm always eager to help out fellow veggies!

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